What’s going on?…
It started with a look. I could tell she was processing something. She seemed a little worried, a bit fearful, and agitated. I decided we should try worshiping together (kids and me) and then see if we could do some spontaneous prayer-worship afterwards. It sounded great to me, but none of my kids went for it. As I sang on my own I noticed my daughter drawing ever more inwards focused. Soon she was crying and when our time of singing was done she ran up to her room and locked the door.
Oops. Did I go too far in requiring us all to worship together? Even though I was hoping this would be a moment where we’d all rally together through music, my expectation didn’t happen. What did happen was that the emotions being held down by ‘strength of will’ came to the surface. I guess I shouldn’t be surprised. I experience that all the time when I’m worshiping Jesus – Smiles and Tears. It was no different in my kids. The emotions of stress rose to the surface and now I had three kids with varying degrees of emotional stress needing me. Worship helped me and the kids finally be ready to talk about what worries they have had over the recent changes in our lives. So, it still turned out to be a helpful time, just different than I expected.
As I went upstairs to talk to my daughter, I hoped she’d open up and let me help her. PHEW! She opened the door to me and allowed me to hug her while she cried. Then she shared her worries. It was related to Coronavirus. Through tears she told me that she was afraid that her grandparents and our new (yet to be adopted) baby might get sick. She didn’t want them to get sick. She was worried for them and that caused her to have some pretty big stress hanging around her. I was so surprised at the depth of compassion she had! I didn’t know that was what was worrying her! I thought she’d be more worried about her own health. Not so.
Doing the Right Thing…
It was the answer that God gave me in the moment that stuck with me most. I could tell that my sweet, kind, and oh-so-responsible kid was taking on a load much too big for her. She was wanting to be sure that she was doing the right things to keep others from getting sick. The only problem was that she didn’t know what all those things were. And, as we’re all well aware, the guidelines were/are changing regularly. She felt a level of responsibility over this COVID-19 stuff.
At that moment, I told her that her only responsibility was to have fun and obey her parents. (Yes, I’m sure there are many other responsibilities, but that’s what was needed at that instant.) I then went on to explain that it’s my responsibility to keep track of the guidelines that the government is giving us. It’s my job to listen to the press conferences, check the news, and keep updated on other notifications. Then I would tell her what she needed to know. As long as she obeyed what I said, then she’d be doing the ‘right thing.’ That was her job – obey her parents.
Responsibility: Have Fun and Obey…
As I thought about this a bit more, it became apparent to me that this is a lesson for adults too. In the midst of a constantly changing atmosphere of rules and regulations, it’s our job to obey too. It’s not our responsibility to know all the ins and outs of what’s happening or even how to defeat this disease. We have lawmakers, government officials, and other well-educated-in-these-areas people to do that. If we as citizens listen and obey the guidelines set forth, then we’re fulfilling our responsibility. We can allow the governing officials to do the higher level work in this area.
Then, as usually happens, another area of realization came to mind. I was discussing all this with my sister-in-law when she sweetly pointed out that it’s also like this in our Christian walk. As God’s children, it’s our responsibility to obey God. We don’t have to know all of the information. We don’t have to plan or make perfect decisions. God is the one that has the ultimate vantage-point and information to help us as we go about fulfilling our purpose. He guides us to what’s best and it’s our responsibility to have fun and obey our Parent, God.
This is so true! When God asked me to start writing this blog, I thought I had heard wrong because surely God wouldn’t ask me to write a blog. That was nowhere near my desire or my experience. In fact, I had tried blogging before and stopped after just one post! But, I obeyed. And now, almost a year later, I can see the trail of good things that have come about because I obeyed – and I even had a little fun. 😉 God knew the bigger picture and I didn’t have to know it in order to obey.
So, what about you? How does this look in your life? I’d be so interested to hear a little story from you. When has God asked you to obey …and have fun?
P.S. My daughter gave me permission to share her story, although I doubt she’d want people to talk with her about it face to face. 🙂
8 thoughts on “Have Fun and Obey”
Every parent should read this blog of yours, Brittany Puttman! Thanks for sharing!
Wow, thank you so much Julia. This is quite an honor to receive such a high recommendation. Thank you.
I am so touched by your daughters concern. And I am so grateful that she was able to verbalize her concerns so that you could give her reassurance and wise words of comfort. I know she is growing into the role of communicating the hard feelings that go on inside. Good job of setting the scene for her to do that.
She really is quite a sweetie, for sure! It was a blessing to hear what was on her heart and be able to support her through this. 🙂
This is beautiful! We worship all the time at home. Zoe takes the speaker outside and plays worship music so loud you can clearly hear it in the house, while she swings. I pray it blesses the neighbors!
Worship always brings what’s hidden and pressed down, out and up. It makes us vulnerable before our God so He can take us where we need to go.
You asked us to share a time when God asked us to obey and have fun. Mine was when He asked us to start keeping Passover. I knew nothing about it, so lots of study was required. Our first Passover might not have looked like others, but we loved it! We had friends over and we did the best we could. We made foods we hadn’t made before even lamb chops. Fun/ hysterical- remember how God told the Israelites not to leave any lamb left, but to burn it in the fire? Well our lamb chops caught fire and burned up!!! Thank goodness we had chicken too. This will be our 4th year. We might not get to have friends over with all that’s going on, but we are very excited anyway.
Thank you so much for sharing about Passover! What a great way to obey the Lord! Have you figured out how your Passover will work out this year?
I love the ease of which you share your life and the story telling ability you have. I remember hearing prophetic words over you writing during MLMP a few years ago. It is just so cool Brittany to see the fruit of your obedience and FUN❤️
My latest obey and fun, has to do with obeying my Father, by praying and letting go of what I wanted and let life unfold. Saturday, Steve and I got to see all our kids and grandkids for about 30 minutes each and honored our kids and obeyed their rules with social distancing! Being together was So FUN!!😍
Yes, it’s been interesting to see how God’s been encouraging new things in me over the past few years! It makes me excited for what’s to come! I’m glad you got to see the kids and grandkids. Being ‘separated’ from family during this time is tough. We’ve had to come up with unique ways to stay connected during this time too. I hope you’re able to continue to stay connected too!